Mental Health Thread 2

[MathyouWSW]

Today (Wednesday) is gonna be a rough day as I'm heading up to Newcastle for a funeral. 

Long story short, one of my aunts was diagnosed to have cancer in three areas (lung, liver and spine). She had chemo twice. Her last one was sometime two weeks ago. After the chemo and been staying at the hospital, the doctors advised her on Sunday she could go home since there was no need to be in hospital. So, she went home Sunday and basically slept heaps as soon as she got home.

On Monday (Anzac Day), she was up for a bit in the afternoon but complained about still being tired so she went back to sleep. Around Monday night, her husband heard her making noises in agony. He realised she was having a heart attack. She had two daughters and their husbands were also at the house trying to revive her while the ambulance were on their way. By the time they got to the house...it was too late, she was gone (aged 61).

When the news broke to me on Tuesday afternoon, I was so gutted due to the fact was she went through chemo twice, we all thought we would have enough time to see her before her time was up. But, the fact she's gone now...and the cause of the death is from a heart attack makes me and a few of us from the family saying "what the actual f*ck"

What I'm more concerned about is her two daughters. Both in their 30's and have kids (the oldest daughter having two boys which are 5 and 3 and the youngest daughter only having a 12 month old boy) so she was literally just enjoying being a grandparent and was cherishing every moment being with them.

So yeah...trying to sleep. But, I don't think I will. 

Luckily, my parents are offering to drive up to Newcastle tomorrow so I'll try and nap in the car.

[pseudonym]

 

[StringerBellend]

On 19/04/2022 at 5:15 PM, Kitto said:

My mum was diagnosed with lung cancer two years ago. She did chemo and all that. A month ago, it got to the stage were treatment was no longer possible.

Last Thursday she went to hospital with double pneumonia. On Friday afternoon the doctor called and the family all went to the room, and in between her bouts of delirium we said our goodbyes. I stayed with dad and my nan (mums mum) until late at night until I went home for sleep. My brother and sister had left a little earlier - they couldn't cope seeing mum like this.

She was still breathing on Saturday morning, but each breath was laboured and you could hear the fluid on her lungs. She was not conscious. It looked liked she had aged 20 years - sunken eyes, stretched skin, little hair. She stopped breathing every now and again, and as I watched I thought that would be the last breath. But then she would breath again... this happened a dozen or more times. 

She passed away mid morning. We all got to say goodbye, pass on our love, and hold her hand as she struggled with the pain, despite the syringe driver supplying morphine. It was a terrible way to go.

She is at peace now. She was only 61.

 

Deep condolences (haven't looked in this thread for months) so sorry to hear..My mother in law passed in a similar way..My wife went out to the UK to be with her at the end and it was a very tough time, terrible way to go.

You got to say goodbye which is important.

 

Hope you and family are coping ok 

[Neverbloom]

I have not really been very active here on here but apart from my one friend I have not really been interacting with anyone

 

Most likely going to go for DSP soon, 4 mental health issues, a few learning disabilities and physical issues (I have zero fine motor skills for example) just worried about the doctors office I go to being a pain but I do have the support of my psychologist 

[marron]

Always good to hear from you mate.

Doctors are **** my way I'll bet they are over there too. But hopefully they sort you out with what you need.

Edited October 6, 2022 by marron

[Neverbloom]

19 hours ago, marron said:

Always good to hear from you mate.

Doctors are **** my way I'll bet they are over there too. But hopefully they sort you out with what you need.

thank you very much, i should post here more just not interacting with too many people, i know i have the psychologist trying to help me with this, not sure what other doctors i could see but the guy at centrelink told me reports from specialists are usually helpful

if i need to see a different doctor i will just see what happens with them

[Smoggy]

Courageous by Dele Alli to come out as he has and talk about his struggles. That takes guts and all the best to him.

Can only be a good thing for us blokes when these guys speak up.

[Midfielder]

Very simple advise .... 

 

 

[Neverbloom]

there has been so many famous suicides recently, RIP, hope copycat suicides dont happen sadly they are a thing

[pseudonym]

 

[Smoggy]

1 hour ago, pseudonym said:

 

Great initiative.

Only issue is at Wanderers games we all look like the fella on the left. How do you pick the depressed person out of a wanderers crowd 

Edited October 10, 2023 by Smoggy

[Kitto]

Mum died almost two years ago. Dad came over yesterday because he wanted to introduce us to a new friend. They were holding hands.

 

She seemed nice and I want dad to be happy and not be lonely, but then again I still really miss mum.

[Edinburgh]

58 minutes ago, Kitto said:

Mum died almost two years ago. Dad came over yesterday because he wanted to introduce us to a new friend. They were holding hands.

 

She seemed nice and I want dad to be happy and not be lonely, but then again I still really miss mum.

[EmMac]

2 hours ago, Kitto said:

Mum died almost two years ago. Dad came over yesterday because he wanted to introduce us to a new friend. They were holding hands.

She seemed nice and I want dad to be happy and not be lonely, but then again I still really miss mum.

Totally understandable 

When my mum died even after two years it was still raw and I would probably have struggled with my dad dating someone at that time.  

Maybe take it one interaction at a time.... she's not your mum and can never replace her but as you say, she seemed nice so see how you go, take it one interaction at a time

[wendybr]

5 hours ago, Kitto said:

Mum died almost two years ago. Dad came over yesterday because he wanted to introduce us to a new friend. They were holding hands.

 

She seemed nice and I want dad to be happy and not be lonely, but then again I still really miss mum.

[Smoggy]

Just a bump to say that this week is mens health week. You wouldn't probably know that...because the main media don't report / promote these things so well when it comes to men's health.

But good to say hope all doing OK 

[Kitto]

On 14/06/2024 at 11:16 AM, Smoggy said:

Just a bump to say that this week is mens health week. You wouldn't probably know that...because the main media don't report / promote these things so well when it comes to men's health.

But good to say hope all doing OK 

 

My workplace had a BBQ to help raise awareness of this week. I pigged out and didn't end up eating anything for dinner as I was still full 

 

 

 

[Smoggy]

There is a LONG way to go with regards to men's health ffs.

I went to get my men's bits and pieces checked out...due to v bad family history of certain cancers.

Walk in the place...go to reception to check in..female receptionist announces "ah yes..Mr Smoggy...you're here for .....<insert male only procedure> in front of a compact waiting area which was ALL women waiting...me stood there embarrassed and mortified..

I mean I don't get that embarrassed but you know....It's not on really I don't think. It's bad enough getting blokes to go for check ups as it is!

Would absolutely do the check up again as need to..but not there!

Imagine if it was a fella on reception and he blurted out about a women's downstairs business!

If we don't talk about these experiences...it never changes or improves for us blokes.

Edited September 2 by Smoggy

[Cynth]

34 minutes ago, Smoggy said:

There is a LONG way to go with regards to men's health ffs.

I went to get my men's bits and pieces checked out...due to v bad family history of certain cancers.

Walk in the place...go to reception to check in..female receptionist announces "ah yes..Mr Smoggy...you're here for .....<insert male only procedure> in front of a compact waiting area which was ALL women waiting...me stood there embarrassed and mortified..

I mean I don't get that embarrassed but you know....It's not on really I don't think. It's bad enough getting blokes to go for check ups as it is!

Would absolutely do the check up again as need to..but not there!

Imagine if it was a fella on reception and he blurted out about a women's downstairs business!

If we don't talk about these experiences...it never changes or improves for us blokes.

Yeah that’s not right. She should be protecting your confidentiality.

[Smoggy]

30 minutes ago, Cynth said:

Yeah that’s not right. She should be protecting your confidentiality.

Yeah...told the wife...and she was fuming. Wants me to make a complaint.....hmmmm yeah...maybe. I don't get as angry about stuff as she does  

 

 

Edited September 2 by Smoggy

[Carns]

It's worth making the complaint purely so the receptionist is taught to not reveal personal information about patients.

[Legionista]

You’ll be right Smoggy. 

[Cynth]

7 hours ago, Smoggy said:

Yeah...told the wife...and she was fuming. Wants me to make a complaint.....hmmmm yeah...maybe. I don't get as angry about stuff as she does  

 

 

I agree with your wife. Maybe your compliant might mean the next person isn’t put off from getting their health needs met. 

[Smoggy]

Annual reminder that today is RU OK Day 

 

Us blokes need to keep on talking 

 

Hope all are OK.

Edited September 11 by Smoggy

[MathyouWSW]

Everyday is R U OK day.

[Neverbloom]

i wont say too much because its someone else's business but i have a friend who is really struggling, never talked about her before but met her at the psych ward and she has shown me nothing but kindness, other than being there for her i cant do anything for her so just a difficult situation